First, I want to assure you that anyone and everyone are welcome to join in our events. We have even had people join in our events when they find us at the venue and did not know about us before. I do not turn away anyone, regardless of ability, age, gender, religion, appearance, or orientation. All are welcome, and encouraged to join in with us. I ask for tolerance and acceptance by others. We have had young and old, disabled people, as well as people who were there ONLY for the activity, not for dating.
When you walk into an event, people tend to judge the group by appearance. I have three things to address here.
- Do not judge the group by the appearance at ONE event. You must attend multiple events to get a good idea of what this group is, who is here, and to meet the one person you are looking for.
- You never know who is going to walk through that door in the next 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or hour. Someone may be running late and will get there after you have already left. That results in a lost connection. This has actually happened with a man who had been to 3 events looking for someone. He left the 4th event after about 5 minutes of looking around. She showed up about 10 minutes later.
- Do not make assumptions about anyone in our group. We have some fine people that may not put their best foot forward every time because they are shy or leery, but give it time. Just meet some of the other people and find out for yourself who they are.
The questions I get asked most are:
- What is the mix of men and women?
- What is the age group?
- Do you have any LGBT?
The mix of men and women:
The mix of men and women varies with the activity. The number of actual members does not matter. What I find is that for most activities there are more women than men, depending on the age group. The higher the age, the more women participate. The lower the age, the more men participate.
I believe this is due to both the number of people from each gender for the age group in the world, as well as the mental processes for each age group. Let me explain what I mean.
As we get older, there are usually more women around. Many older guys either have younger women by then, or have passed away due to health conditions, accident, or other causes. Also, more women are interested in social events than men, so they tend to frequent activities more. That accounts for the higher ratio of women to men in the age groups over 45.
There is usually an abundance of young men, therefore you can expect to see more young men. When we are younger, guys may have more time to go out to meet women, while women are more interested in time with friends. Young men also tend to want to meet women as their focus, while young women may not care about meeting men at the moment.
As we move between these ages, it is usually a pretty good ratio of men and women. For some activities, such as dances. there may be many more women. I tell guys they can come to talk, and I am willing to show them an easy dance move that they can use just to have time with their partner. The very few that have accepted my advice have done well.
The best thing to do is to show up at an event. I never know what the mix will be until I get there myself. If I require reservations for an event I can usually know how many of each gender, and may promote to a few of the lower numbered gender to try to get a better mix, but there is no assurance of this.
The age group(s):
While all ages are welcome to our events (I have had as young as 20 and as old as 76), I have endeavored to promote to a younger crowd this time to widen the age interest. In the past, I have promoted from about 32 or 34 to 60, but this year am actively pursuing from 28. I have more recently opened promotion to a younger group, hoping to see interest from about 22 or 24 years old and up. While they may not be interested in meeting for a long term relationship, they will enjoy activities and making friends.
Expect to meet singles of all age groups, but you can certainly focus your attention on the age group you wish to involve yourself with. If you ever feel you are getting unwanted advances from someone, just let me know and I can speak with them, but that RARELY happens in Central Coast Singles.
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender:
Actually, we have had some LGBT participants in the past. While I do not actively promote to this group because I am not sure they want to throw themselves into activities with people they would not date, those that have attended have had a good time. At some of our events, they might even meet outside non-CCS people with their same preference that happen to be at the event at the same time.
As you can see, I do my best to make Central Coast Singles as inclusive and fun as possible. Give us a try and see how it works for you.
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